Read the title and count ladies, how many times we’ve all heard this before in the dating/hookup culture. Whether it be on dating apps, friend gatherings, family functions (and dysfunctions…lol), work, or by some obnoxious random stranger.
It’s almost like they are talking to you like a poor, helpless, forgotten soul that is bound to be lonely FOREVER if they don’t find a partner/husband ASAP. Here is what us WAC ladies have to say in response to those of you that think like this or open your mouth’s to say such ignorant comments and/or ask dumb questions:
- Mind your own business. Pretty simple. My business, my sex life, my dating life, my choices are my business and mine only. When I decide to let you subscribe to my daily life diaries published online and we meet at my book signing, you can ask me stupid questions then. But for now …STFU.
- Her being “beautiful” is not a green light for you to give her a backhanded compliment. On one hand you are complimenting her outer looks and on the other hand you are insulting her by stating that her marital status must mean there is something defective about her or else she would have already been married. So classy. Mind you this is coming from many men who themselves aren’t married yet, or come from broken families and wouldn’t dare say these things to their mothers/sisters. Or would they? Oh, cause in that situation, it’s blood– you can’t insult your own mother and sister…but the girl you love and think is beautiful from head to toe…her ….yes her…YUP you can insult. Said no one.
- The only thing she is hiding from is your inability to be curious to learn more about her and your inability to be mindful of what you say and how you say it. It’s called being a mature adult and not being judgmental, for there is no person on earth that is roaming around and is perfect. So again STFU.
- If there is a defect with her, or something “wrong” with her….why are you approaching her and trying SOOOOOOOOOOO HARD to get her attention? Is the only way you can hit on a girl now a days is by throwing an insult mixed in with the dirty martini compliment? Go read a book on how to become a gentlemen. No serious, go. Here is a link: CLICK HERE . You’re welcome.
- We are so sick of the demanding double standards that are placed on us women for whatever reason we choose to do for our lives, and sometimes it’s not even chosen, it’s just fate. So seriously back off and let God determine what’s best for her life story. You guys are making us girls sick and mentally depressed and filled with anxiety. That is a form of bullying guised in a pretty little tutu. Just stop twirling around us already and GTFU (grow the fuck up)….
- If you don’t want to be attacked, lay off asking stupid questions. Love her for how far she has come in her life aside from the oppression, trauma, double standards, pain, unrealistic standards of beauty, etc. Celebrate her, don’t sit that and analyze her and make her feel like shit. Regardless of a women’s age, she should be admired if you want to date her. Buy her flower. Take her to a date and not just a coffee sit down. Put effort and win her over just like back in the days.
It’s honestly exhausting dealing with these types of people. We probably shouldn’t have just stated that this message is for men, because in all honesty. Now that we think of it, women say it to women too. UGHHHHH. ANNOYED to the MAX. lol.
We need to be the change if we want to see the change. Everyone has the right to feel loved and wait for true love. There is nothing wrong with waiting to get married and doing it when it’s organic and natural for you. Not, OH, there is so much pressure let me just settle to shut everyone’ s mouth up. YUCK. How miserable would you all be? And people wonder why divorce rates are so high.
So in conclusion, be nice, think nice, do nice. It’s basics people, basic. We’re talking in lament terms, basic math, basic kindergarten 101 if you want. Let’s just all try to be better at being HUMANS and treating others like humans too.
WAC 